Are you a perfectionist?
Do you feel a constant dominating pressure to achieve?
Do you criticize yourself when you are not perfect?
Do you feel you have not given enough no matter how hard you try? To achieve the ultimate best.
Do you give up on pleasure factor in whatever you do? In order to be the best in everything you do?
Does your self esteem depend on everyone else’s opinion about you or how others evaluate you? Do you sometimes avoid taking challenges or assignments from the fear of being failure or afraid of disappointing your boss?
Are you better at caring for others rather than caring for yourself or do you always try to please whoever is there in front of you?
Do you avoid sharing negative feelings or avoid saying no when you have to or you keep most of the negative feelings inside you to avoid displeasing others?
If the answers to all this questions are yes then surely you are a victim of stress.
Helpful techniques
Keep an exact record of the stressful situations and rate the actual level of stress from 0 – most relaxed to 10 – most stressed out and abandoned, on the practice journal worksheet try to monitor your stress full grading before and after that stressful event. As you practice and do many times you will observe that the levels of stress grading are not constant.
You will find that your stress level increases when you are concentrating on your most alarming calls and thoughts and bodily reactions, but your stress level falls as soon as your bodily reactions turns away from these areas. This will show and indicate you that the one way to reduce those levels of stress is through actively moving away or turn away from negative stress builders and stress building thoughts and to concentrate on positive stress busting ways or stress busters and lay down on positive stress busting thoughts and concentrating on them.
Combating negative thoughts with positive thinking needs practice but it’s up to us whom we want to let us dominate, so try to replace negative thoughts with positive ones it’s worth it give it a try and practice it hard. Then review the facts and asses your results and choose between the two you will only guide yourself towards good or bad. What is your evidence? Is there another way to view the situation? If not then think what’s the worst thing that could happen or would have happened? You may have been concentrating on the worst possibility, but by no means the most likely outcome.
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